23 Dangerous Things You Should…

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BobLee
July25/ 2017

I can’t recall doing anything this lazy in 18 years… simply “Copy” and “Paste”.  But it seems so ideal for this audience.  Yes, I did all 23 of these things, and I never considered myself a daredevil as a kid.

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23 Dangerous Things You Should Let Your Kids Do

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2017/06/28/23-dangerous-things-let-kids/

June 29, 2017 … from TheArtofManliness.com

Even though the modern world isn’t any more dangerous than it was thirty or forty years ago, it feels like a more perilous place. Or, more accurately, we inhabit the world today in a way that’s much more risk averse; for a variety of very interesting and nuanced reasons, our tolerance for risk, especially concerning our children’s safety, has steadily declined.

So we remove jungle gyms from playgrounds, ban football at recess, prohibit knives (even the butter variety) at school, and would rather have our kids playing with an iPad than rummaging through the garage or roaming around the neighborhood.

Unfortunately, as we discussed in-depth earlier this year, when you control for one set of risks, another simply arises in its place. In this case, in trying to prevent some bruises and broken bones, we also inhibit our children’s development of autonomy, competence, confidence, and resilience. In pulling them back from firsthand experiences, from handling tangible materials and demonstrating concrete efficacy, we ensconce them in a life of abstraction rather than action.

By insisting on doing everything ourselves, because we can do things better and more safely, we deprive kids of the chance to make and test observations, to experiment and tinker, to fail and bounce back. In treating everything like a major risk, we prevent kids from learning how to judge the truly dangerous, from the simply unfamiliar.

Fortunately, we can restore the positive traits that have been smothered by overprotective parenting, by restoring some of the “dangerous” activities that have lately gone missing from childhood. The suggestions below on this score were taken both from 50 Dangerous Things (You Should Let Your Children Do), as well as memories from my own more “free range” childhood. If you grew up a few decades back, these activities may seem “obvious” to you, but they’re less a part of kids’ lives today, and hopefully these reminders can help spark their revival.

While each contains a element of danger and chance of injury, these risks can be thoroughly mitigated and managed by you, the parent: Permit or disallow activities based on your child’s individual age, maturity level, and abilities.

Take necessary precautions (which are common sense and which I’m not going to entirely spell out for you; you’re a grown-up, not a moron). Teach and demonstrate correct principles, and supervise some practice runs. Once you’ve created this scaffolding of safety, however, try to step back and give your child some independence. Step in only when a real danger exists, or when your adult strength/dexterity/know-how is absolutely necessary. And don’t be afraid to let your kids fail. That’s how they learn and become more resilient.

In return for letting your children grapple with a little bit of healthy risk, the activities below teach motor skills, develop confidence, and get kids acquainted with the use of tools and some of the basic principles of science. Outside any educational justification, however, they’re just plain fun — something we’ve forgotten can be a worthy childhood pursuit in and of itself!

Play With Fireworks

Playing with fireworks is not only a fun way to celebrate freedom, it teaches your kids how to responsibly handle fire and to have a healthy respect for exploding objects. Unfortunately, thanks to stringent fireworks laws and parents freaked out from viral stories of children losing eyeballs while lighting Roman candles, many kids today have never experienced the pure excitement and joy of igniting a fuse and waiting for the impending explosion.

Introduce your 3-5 year olds to the world of fireworks with “pop-pops” — those little paper-wrapped tadpole-like things you throw on the ground. They’re safe and the kids can have fun with them without injuring themselves or anybody else. You can also get them acquainted with sparklers. These preparatory “fireworks” offer a chance for children to learn general principles of safety: not to throw lit objects at others, touch people with a hot sparkler, handle a dud, etc.

When your kids hit age 6, you can start letting them light innocuous fireworks like snakes and smoke bombs. These don’t explode and will teach your kids how to light a fuse safely and to be aware of others as they use firecrackers.

By age 9 or 10, your kid should be ready to fire off pretty much anything you can find at a fireworks stand. You should continue to supervise their pyrotechnics until they’re teens, though.

Hammer a Nail

Hammering a nail is a basic life skill every person should master, but many parents don’t let their kids attempt this task out of fear of them smashing their fingers. Yes, little children are uncoordinated, but the only way they’ll ever become coordinated is if they Hammergain hands-on experience in using tools. Start letting your 3-year-old practice hammering nails with a ball peen hammer. They’re lighter than the traditional claw variety and thus easier to handle. As your child’s dexterity and strength improve, upgrade him to a full-sized claw hammer, lay out a 2×4 and a box of nails, and let him go to town.

Talk about cheap entertainment.

Stick Your Arm Out a Car Window

Sticking their arm out the window of a moving car and letting their hand ride the wind is a great way for kids to get acquainted with the basic principles of aerodynamics — it’s like a personal wind tunnel. Encourage your child to play with different positions — moving the angle of her hand, closing and opening her fingers — to observe how these variations affect lift and drag.

Yes, an arm could be severed if it hit an object alongside the road, but objects are very, very rarely positioned close enough to cause a collision. And if they are, your kid’s got eyes, doesn’t she?

Jump Off a Cliff

When you jump from a cliff 20 feet high, you’ll hit the water at 25 miles an hour. That’s enough force to do some serious bodily damage. But making such jumps, and even those which are higher, is certainly doable, even for small kids, as long as you Cliff Jumptake precautions and teach them proper technique.

Make sure the water is deep enough; for a jump of 20 feet, the water should be at least 8 feet deep. Then add 2 feet of water depth for every additional 10 feet of jump height. Ensure the landing spot is free from underwater obstacles like rocks. And teach your child to jump in a pencil dive: body straight, arms overhead, back slightly arched to avoid rotating forward. For little ones who aren’t strong swimmers, put them in a life jacket before they Geronimo! into the water.

Use a Bow and Arrow

After watching a Robin Hood flick or reading The Hunger Games, your kids will probably want to shoot a bow and arrow. Instead of getting him (or her) the wimpy Nerf variety, let them use the real thing. A youth archery set can be found for less than $50, will provide hours of entertainment, and will teach your kids how to be responsible with potentially dangerous objects. They’ll also pick up skills like judging distance and how to aim.

Cook a Meal

Cooking might not seem that dangerous, but once your kids start wanting to help make dinner, you begin noticing how many tasks prompt a “Whoa, be careful there!” response. Sharp knives, stove fire, and hot pans present hazards. I remember when I was five, I decided to nuke a bowl of milk by myself; when I took the bowl out of the microwave, I spilled its scalding hot contents all over my arm. At first I hid from my mom, but as a huge blister formed, I had to confess and get it tended to by a doctor.

Despite such potential mishaps, it’s worth not only letting your children assist you in the kitchen, but allowing them to try cooking on their own too. More so than any other activity on this list, it’ll teach them a valuable skill towards grown-up self-sufficiency.

Climb a Tree

Few activities feel more liberating than climbing a tree. It’s thrilling to leave the ground and test your physical deftness, as well as your daring as you decide just how high up you’ll go. The air seems fresher among the branches. The most classic of classic childhood activities, hopefully tree climbing will continue on for another millennia.

Roughhouse

Roughhousing may just look like a primitive-level melee of potentially injury-causing wrestling and hair pulling, but it actually has a bunch of high-level benefits. Whether children are mixing it up with Dad, or with each other, research has shown that good old fashioned horseplay develops kids’ resilience, intelligence, and even empathy — it teaches them how to negotiate the dynamics of aggression, cooperation, and fair play. So suplex your children more often, and don’t break up the good natured battle royales they put on between themselves.

Go Sledding

Yes, it’s hard to believe this needs to be mentioned — that sledding isn’t an intrinsic part of every childhood (at least for those who live in colder climes). But I’ve met an alarming number of kids who grew up where there was at least occasional snow, and yet never went sledding. It’s hard to know if this is because parents are worried about the danger of the activity, or are just too lazy to leave their toasty, climate-controlled home to take the kids to a local hill. Either way, while sledding invariably comes with some bumps and bruises, as well as environmental discomforts, there’s hardly a more fun and memorable childhood activity. Especially when mitten-molded snow ramps are involved.

Drive a Car

Not by themselves, mind you. Or on public streets, of course, which would be illegal. But in a big parking lot, largely free of obstacles, positioned on Dad’s lap, who can work the pedals and grab the steering wheel if needs be. From this position, a kid can experience the thrill of learning how to steer a 2-ton hunk of metal in relative safety.

Burn Things With a Magnifying Glass

Mag glass

There are many fun and interesting ways to start a fire without matches, but using a magnifying glass is one of the most versatile.It provides you with a focused beam of heat that cannot only burn paper and leaves, but melt plastic. A kid can even use it to burn a symbol or his name into a piece of wood.

Walk or Ride a Bike to School

According to one study in the U.K., while 80% of third-graders were allowed to walk to school in 1971, that number had dropped to just 9% in 1990, and is even lower today. Parents started prohibiting their children from walking or riding their bike to and from school by themselves out of the fear that they might be kidnapped along the way. Yet abductions are exceedingly rare, and no more common now than they were several decades ago. Further, a child has a 40X greater risk of dying as a passenger in a car than being kidnapped or killed by a stranger.

No HandsNOTE:  I often rode the entire eight blocks to Harvey Jr. High WITH NO HANDS. on the handlebars.  …. OOPS:  I have been corrected by “Mercer From The ‘Hood” that it was closer to 10.5 blocks to Harvey School.  Making my daredevil feat even more REMARKABLE! …. Helmet?  What helmet?

 

If letting your kid walk to school (or even the bus stop) still fills you with dread, work up to it gradually: 1) Walk together with your child to school a few times, pointing out any dangers from traffic and reviewing how to deal with strangers, then 2) walk halfway to school with your child, watching her walk the rest of the way alone, and finally 3) let her walk all the way by herself, without you watching.

Explore A Tunnel

When my father-in-law was a boy in the early 1960s, the post-WWII housing boom was still in full swing, and a huge neighborhood was being built about a mile away from his home. Once the land was cleared, workers laid out gigantic sewer pipes so high he could walk through them without bending down, and so long they became pitch black once you advanced several yards from the openings. Though exploring the tunnels was a favorite activity of the neighborhood boys, my father-in-law recalls being a little terrified by these expeditions. Yet they still became an indelible memory!

Modern explorers should avoid tunnels filled with sewage and unsavory critters or humans, stay away from storm drains after rain, wear gloves, and bring along a flashlight — as well as a heaping helping of courage!

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  • Highstick Reply
    5 months ago

    As an avid deer hunter, I can assure you that the “safest deer in the forest” are those that I encounter “after I climb a tree and try to shoot a bow”…Sometimes I stop and laugh at myself as the arrow makes this “wimpy arc and flops in the leaves”!

    • BobLee Reply
      5 months ago

      Try using a slingshot. 🙂

  • Jon Sasser Reply
    5 months ago

    The morning of October 28, 1998 dawned clear and crisp. I led Lil Dude away from the SUV‎, telling him we are doing something different today. “Come with me.”

    ‎After two blocks, he held his arms up over his head. “Carry me, Daddy.” I bent over and re-tied his shoelaces. “I bet there’s a squirrel on that tree over there.”

    I could have carried him. He was a good ways from his current 6’5,” 220 lbs. But I distracted him with one ploy after another for the half-mile to nursery school. “What do you want for your birthday?”

    The next day, his second birthday, I gave him some expensive toy, no recollection what it was. But he will be able to tell his children: “You kids nowadays are soft; I walked to school when I was one.”

    • BobLee Reply
      5 months ago

      With Kid. Holding her hand is “her parking lot paw” that Daddy holds when we walk across a parking lot.

  • OldWuf vet Reply
    5 months ago

    Younger than you but still had a pretty idyllic childhood. One of those”don’t you come in this house, you play outside” kids. Remember all sorts of daredevil escapades and “death defying” feats. NEVER, ever ran to mom to report a minor injury. If we did that, mom would force us to remove it from our list of activities. Walked or rode my bike to school through fourth grade. Fifth grade meant forced busing to East Winston, 20+ miles each way. Moved to the country after that, walked home from seventh grade Bball practice, 2 miles in the dark, across neighbors cow pasture and through the woods. Dang, I sound old

    • BobLee Reply
      5 months ago

      In 12 years, I never rode a school bus.

  • BobLee Reply
    5 months ago

    In looking back over the childhood of our 29 y/o soon-to-be-mother-of-twins; my only regret was “she’s never tasted her own blood” i.e. never had a bloody nose.
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    Me being the only boy in our family, that lament was never appreciated. UNTIL she married Reverend Danny The High School Super Jock. HE GOT IT. But quickly promised never to rectify that missing piece of her life.

  • Doug Reply
    5 months ago

    A few to add to the list. Chasing the fogging machine was on my list too…. Drinking water from a water hose almost every summer day…… Playing in and damning up the the pickle ditch. Huh? That one is location and years specific to a certain Wayne County town famous for making pickles and then dumping the waste into a ditch.
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    We knew the source but to where it ended up, we never found it. We also weren’t aware that the pickle company was founded in 1926 by a Mr.Shickrey Baddour of Goldsboro. Shickrey has an ancestor named Dickie. Almost rhymes huh?
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    Entering the foul smelling hole was frowned on by the nosey neighborhood mom’s and dad’s and would inevitably lead to a sore rear end. A frequent occurrence until we developed our stealthy skills. What we didn’t know was our parents knew where we’d been anyway since we would smell like dill pickles when we came home for supper. Somehow, this never led to another ass whipping, at least for me. Us kids NEVER discussed when we were or how we were disciplined. I suspect the ditch was safe as there were always crayfish, frogs, minnows, turtles, a few snakes, and a lot of loose cucumber bits. All in all, the mid 50’s – the mid 60’s was a great time to be a kid.

  • ultraviolet Reply
    5 months ago

    I think by age 12 they should also be able to fire a Light Anti-tank Weapone (Laws rocket for the TV watchers) and know to verify and yell “Backblast Clear!” loudly.

    I watched my daughter fall out of a tree when she was about 7 (now 11) with the accompanying high drama, screaming, etc. Once I verified no broken bones or major injury, about an hour later I made her climb back up in it.

    Not long after I let her and her friend ride bikes down to the local Starbucks. The first time I rode to a nearby location and watched them from a distance unbeknownst to them. Subsequent trips went unsupervised. They became known there as the kids without parents. I probably should’ve had them beg for money given the costs at Starbucks.

    Now, I’m having to run that little urchin off her Ipod and make her go outside. Proud papa moment though. At our recent beach vacation she was overheard lecturing her little friend that “you don’t pay all this money to go to the beach and sit inside and play on your phone or watch TV!” Been taking her to the beach and playing all day on the sand since she was an infant. She still loves the surf. I stand by in the water on shark watch.

    I still feel like a helicopter parent.

    • BobLee Reply
      5 months ago

      I just checked with the International Helicopter Parent Society. They say you are the GOOD type of HP.

  • AO,GSBO Reply
    5 months ago

    Running the storm sewer pipes near our house is still a right of passage for kids in our neighborhood. All is not lost.

    • BobLee Reply
      5 months ago

      The GSBO N&R just dispatched a team of “Nanny State Commandos” to shut that down. Thanks for letting them know… 🙂

  • Irondoc Reply
    5 months ago

    I’m glad to see you pulled this article from The Art of Manliness website. AOM and Average2Alpha are very good websites that celebrate manly traits that are being discouraged in our current transgender, pink p hat wearing climate. Talks about things that are discouraged these days like accountability, success, taking charge, standing up for yourself – manly, macho, testosterone driven attitudes. Great websites!

    • BobLee Reply
      5 months ago

      Are you implying there could be slight “socio-political undertones” to this? Moi?
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      The most glaring omission to me is “chasing the mosquito fog truck (DDT) down the street on your bike”. The 60s residential equivalent of AgentOrange.

  • Tim.76 Reply
    5 months ago

    There are going to be a whole bunch of (slightly exaggerated) “goofy stuff I did as a kid” comments, aren’t there?

    • BobLee Reply
      5 months ago

      Yep. 🙂

  • NCSU68Grad Reply
    5 months ago

    Into a bit of hyperbole, Eh?
    Must have been a city writer. Tie a 50 foot rope to the top beam of a large Barn lloft and ride a well pulley down to the ground. They call that a “Ropes Course” today.
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    Melt wax in a frying pan to make a candle and then watch it catch on fire and run out the kitchen door with it flaming to keep from setting the house on fire.
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    Kill a small copperhead by riding your tricycle over and over. Then watch your mother almost go into cardiac arrest. For maximum effect, do this at age 4.
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    As Julie Andrews would probably NOT sing….”These are my favorite things….”
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    Back in Boston. BL, you need to travel to Foxboro and visit Tobin Keith’s “I Love This Bar” in the Patriots Gillette Stadium “complex”. Warm beer; Cold food; Low cut topped waitresses (not wearing Betty Lou or Bobby Jo” name tags. An entire column on the commercialism of a “Brand” gone wrong. Throwback computer controlled mechanical bull was “down” due to needing a software update to detune or calm it down. Great column material…

    • BobLee Reply
      5 months ago

      OK… maybe TWO comments back-to-back.

    • Irondoc Reply
      5 months ago

      NCSU68 – went to I Love This Bar in Newport News, VA and felt the same way – overrated, overpriced, overhyped, mediocre. Guess since Jimmy Buffet’s Margaritavile every star has to have a restaurant/bar

      • BobLee Reply
        5 months ago

        Are there any Hard Rock Cafes left except in Las Vegas? Planet Hollywood?

        • TarSpartan Reply
          5 months ago

          I’m a generation behind most of your readers (42 next week), but I still did most of these things as a kid. Heck, I could ride my bike to school without a helmet, stick it in the bike rack without locking it up, and ride it back home after school.

          As for the Hard Rock Cafe, there are still a good number around. The one in Orlando has a Beatles-themed room they will show off if you ask. The one in Amsterdam has a nice view of the water/canals/whatever.

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